Thank You Mr. Milligan: A Bright Light With the Thames Valley School Board


Evelina Silveira, President Diversity At Work

So often we hear how the school system is failing to keep our children safe.  How bullying seems to be on the rise and the labour strife between the Elementary Teachers’ Federation of Ontario and the Government of Ontario doesn’t seem to want to budge.

But amid the turmoil, is a shining light at the Thames Valley District School Board — a principal who takes his job seriously when it comes to children’s safety and inclusive education.

Mr. Colin Milligan of Princess Anne French Immersion School in London, has put the “pal” back into the word “principal” with his kind but firm and professional approach to dealing with both parents and students.

He heads a large elementary school with a cross-section of  diverse children from South London and beyond.

When a group of dispondent Grade 7 children came to visit him expressing their disappointment with the withdrawal of extra-curricular activities, he listened.  Others may have turned the children away, but he decided that they would problem solve together.  They surveyed their fellow students and came up with some ideas of what they could do.  They were involved in an assembly and collaborated on a video on the theme of “Words are Powerful” and that was just the beginning!

Mr. Milligan takes bullying seriously, and he doesn’t need a school policy to tell him it is wrong.  He doesn’t tolerate it.  Not because he has to.  Because he wants to and it comes from his heart.

My daughter spends a lot of time in the principal’s office and so do her friends.  Not because they are in trouble, but because they like him and they want to work with him to build the best school possible. Their education has been enriched by the projects, teamwork and nurtured friendships.  When I get a call from the school principal, it’s a good thing.

(In my day, going to the principal’s office to talk about a problem was unthinkable.  You might as well suffer in silence until graduation because they acted more like sergeants than role models. Change is good).

Thank you also to Madame Wilkie the school’s Vice Principal who is also another empathetic ear, a real gem and a great role model for the students.

Merci Madame et Monsieur pour ton bon travail.  Felicitations!

Listen Up! Canadians Have Feelings, Too!


Evelina Silveira, President, Diversity At Work in London

I have been working with New Canadians for many years, and as a child of immigrant parents, I grew up with a lot of anti-Canadian sentiments.  Usually, my parents’ complaints had to do with the leniency with which Canadian parents treated misbehaving children or the relative permissiveness of Canadian society that was a sharp contrast to where they were from.  While they would complain occasionally about Canada, they would always end the conversation about how wonderful  Canada is and how grateful they were to be here.

I hear similar statements now that I am working in a field with many New Canadians.  Grievances about the educational system, health care, judicial system, and so on.  I have often found myself sitting back and saying nothing, even though, at times, I feel offended or maybe even disappointed.  On the other hand, I have encountered similar comments, even ethnocentric ones, from Canadian-born individuals related to immigrants.  For whatever reason, it seems that it is easier to challenge a Canadian co-worker than a New Canadian about stereotypes or ethnocentrism.  Is this truly fair?

The truth of the matter is that both need to be challenged.  Oftentimes, the New Canadian makes these statements out of frustration with the whole acculturation process.  Sometimes, everything is so new that they wish it was the same as it was back home, where they understood everything and knew how to navigate everyday life.  Unfortunately, these expressions of frustration can also be expressions of racism, ethnocentrism and lack of appreciation for life in Canada.

My suggestions to New Canadians who are prone to “Canadian bashing” are to:

1.  Ask Questions – Why are things done this way?  What are the values behind these institutions?  Get to understand the country and its people before you criticize it.

2.   Get involved.  Isolation from mainstream society can make you feel more negative about life here.  You can do many things – take a course, do volunteer work, get involved in politics. Conduct research on Canada etc.

3.  Stop and think for a moment.  How would you feel if you heard Canadians or other groups commenting about your culture the way you do about them?  What would you call it?  Would you report it?

4.  Remember, just because you have not received a reaction or received a reprimand does not mean that your comments do not have an impact.  Canadians sometimes tend to be passive-aggressive with these types of views by avoiding direct confrontation and instead showing their resentment in other ways.

In this day and age when so much turmoil is going on in the world., where wars, hunger and intolerance dominate our media, we have so much to be thankful for living in a country that is a haven of peace and sanity in an insane world.

Stand Up Against the “B” Word


ImageSo it is summer, and things have slowed down and now I have time to do things like watch television.  It seems like it has been awhile since I have watched so much television, but I am going to put a halt to it very soon.   I cannot believe what I am seeing!  Has the world become so numb and accepting of the violence against women in TV?  Reality television has stooped to the lowest level when a bunch of women are vying for a bachelor? Roma women are punching each other and slapping the face of a pregnant woman?  Vancouver beauties fight over who has more filler or botox? And on top of that the “Bitch” word and “Slut” word gets furiously hurled around like it was nothing, even in daytime programming which was once supposed to have higher decency standards!

Since when did it become acceptable and common place to call women female dogs?  I don’t care if some women have reclaimed this word as their own.  The connotation is still negative.  We are ascribing half of the world’s population to the status of an animal.  Why are anti-racist activists so good at challenging the use of derogatory and racist words and women are not?  Is it that women are unsuccessful with challenging it, or are their calls not being heard? When was the last time you saw the “N” word written if full?  You probably haven’t.  The “N” word has become so repugnant in our vocabulary that the mere sight of it, makes a lot of people enraged.  It’s meaning heralds back to a time of slavery, inequality, and the inferior role that black people had in our society.

I wish that we could do the same with the “B” word or the “S” word and others  What will it take for us to see that calling women these words is repugnant as well? It seems that we haven’t really progressed that much. By using these words, we show that we are backward and that women have not reached the same equal status as men in our society.  We still judge them on their submission, passivity, and on their sexual history.

Let’s challenge one another when we use these words against women.  One by one we can make these misogynistic words cast outs from our vernacular.  It is going to take some time but  high time that women enjoyed equal status in this society, don’t you think?

Cross Cultural Differences Exist. Period


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Climate, language, history geography, spiritual beliefs, politics, kinship groups,  and ways of knowing  will be different cross-culturally. Why then is it so difficult for some people to acknowledge that cultural differences do exist?  The research on cross-cultural differences abounds, albeit some of it has been racist, ethnocentric and conducted with poor methods and funded by eugenics organizations to advance their agenda of creating the perfect race.  Unfortunately for some, their negative exposure to the former type of research is what remains embedded in their psyche, unable to explore the possibilities that good research on cultural differences can offer appreciation for one another and  maintain positive  international relations.

After working for over 20 years with various ethno-cultural groups, and having learned to navigate through my parent’s culture of origin and the Canadian one, I know for a fact that cultural differences do exist.  This doesn’t mean that one is necessarily better than the other, it just means that differences occur because of the myriad of reasons that were noted in the introduction.  Cultures are formed by differences and similarities.  The similarities in their experiences makes them a culture; this is what distinguishes them from people whose experiences are different.  The formation of cultural groups helps them to keep the characteristics that make them unique.

Indeed, when we speak about cultural differences there is the possibility of us making assumptions and creating stereotypes.  From our early years we are taught to separate and categorize for instance blocks of different colours  to help us order things in our mind and to make sense of them, and to understand their unique properties.  Yes there will always be “blocks” or “people who don’t fit so nicely into these categories but it is natural for us to want to try to make sense of large amounts of important information especially when it comes to understanding the human race..

I know that my contentions will probably deviate from those of my diversity consultant colleagues; but I believe that there is some merit to making generalizations about cultures when there is solid research backing  them up, while keeping in mind that there will always be those people that do not “fit into the box”. Ethnographies have come a long way since the days of Malinowski’s,  ‘The Sexual Life of Savages”, and cultural anthropologists are constantly improving their research methods.

Exploring cultural differences can give us not only great insight about others, but a better understanding of ourselves as well.

Just because we are afraid of creating cultural stereotypes or making assumptions is no reason for us to contend that all cultures are the same and not talk about them.  Instead, through dialogue and exploring the potential differences and the pitfalls with making some assumptions will we truly learn from one another.

Evelina Silveira, President Diversity At Work in London

Honesty is the Best Policy When It Comes to Supporting New Canadians In the Workplace


Over the last 4 years I have worked directly with New Canadian students coordinating work placements for them to gain the experience that they need to forge ahead in their professional lives.  As a consultant, I am in a unique position where  not only do I hear from immigrants about their workplace experiences, I also hear from employers about some of the challenges that they are facing working with a different demographic.

There are many situations that have come up over the years that were sensitive ones, that I had to address with New Canadians because I wanted them to succeed in their work life.  Sometimes I had to let them know that their clothing was too provocative for a Canadian workplace, I had to gently tell them to work on their intonation because they sounded like they were delivering a death telegram, or I explained to them the adage that “time is money” in Canada means if you are late for work it usually means you are going to get into trouble.  I have always prefaced my conversations with New Canadians to let them know that  although what I may tell them may sound too direct, I am giving them this advice because I want to see them succeed.  In the four years that I have worked with New Canadians to help them find work placements, I have to say that no one has ever minded when I told them the truth because my intentions were good.

So often I have heard sad stories from New Canadians who are let go and do not know why.  They are usually terminated because of a lack of soft skills, by not following the social conventions of the workplace.   Along the way, many people would have seen these behaviours, but probably decided to leave them alone for fear of offending them.  Instead , co-workers will talk behind their back, which is disrespectful instead of dealing with it up front.  The cost of not addressing issues with New Canadians because of fear of offending them can be damaging not only to them but for the company as well.  Honest feedback  gives New Canadians an opportunity to improve which can lead to pay increases and promotions in the future.  I have often noticed how organizations that are “too polite” and not open with their New Canadians, never seem to promote them.  They will tell their employees that their English is good, but then they stay in the same entry-level position for 10 or more years.  Instead, an employer that addresses issues of fluency by giving the employee an opportunity to improve, in my opinion is far more supportive and equitable  than one who leaves it alone.  The first employer is not recognizing the potential of the employee where the latter one does and is willing to support he or she to achieve workplace success.

For New Canadians who are entering into our work force for the first time, it is important to keep an open mind that is receptive to feedback.  You may want to suggest to a co-worker or a supervisor that you trust to let you know when you are not handling a situation the way they normally do in your workplace.    Let them know that you are sincerely open and that  you want to be successful in your work and that you need their advice.  When you let someone know this, you are giving them permission to guide you.  Many Canadians are very worried about offending others so they may avoid giving feedback.

Conversely, co-workers and supervisors should address any issues that arise with a New Canadian right at the beginning to give them a chance to improve and to let them know how you would like them to handle different situations.  When you say for instance ” I am telling you this because I want you to be successful in your job ….” they are more likely to take your advice.  It shows that you see their  success as part of your responsibility.

Taking the Stigma out of Pronunciation Lessons


By:  Evelina Silveira, President, Diversity At Work in London Inc.

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Excellent communication skills are paramount to navigating through challenging situations in and out of the workplace.  For most people, they do not come easily and must be learned.  If you are a non-native English speaker who has been through the local public educational system to take your English classes, there is a good chance that you did not spend much time learning good pronunciation.  For whatever reason, teaching ESL speakers how to pronounce  well has not been a priority.  Quite often however, the students will come away with reasonably good writing and conversation skills, but are  misunderstood.  It is hard to understand why a New Canadian is in ESL classes for 3 to 5 years and continues to make the same pronunciation errors that they made when they first arrived.  The reality is, is that very little time gets devoted  to teaching pronunciation in the classroom, but also within the Teaching English As A Second Language curriculum. Furthermore, the classroom can be too large to allow for individual coaching.

If  a New Canadian spends some time outside the ESL classroom, independently studying , they can improve their pronunciation considerably.  However, as people get settled more here and the demands of work and family take precedence, it is easy to see how developing good pronunciation can take less of a priority.

Frequently, I will  be contacted by persons who feel they need some improvement with their pronunciation as well as employers who seek to support their ESL employee.  For those inquiring about lessons for themselves, they often feel embarrassed asking their employer to share the cost, believing it is too much to ask for.  My contention is that pronunciation and elocution lessons are just another form of professional development that helps employees enhance their communication skills.

Pronunciation lessons  presented the same way as they would for  any other form of professional development.  You can approach it in several ways.  Here are a few ways you can present the idea of pronunciation classes for your employees:

1)   If you find within the hiring process that the candidate could use some extra help, ask them if they would be ready to take some classes that you as an employer would be prepared to cover the costs.

2)  During the performance appraisal, offer the employee some pronunciation classes.  It is important that you emphasize the employee’s value to the organization and you want them to feel more confident in the work that they do, as well as have the same opportunities for advancement as the rest of the staff.

3)  Alternatively, if your organization is one that circulates professional development opportunities and asks employees to register their interest, make sure that you include pronunciation classes.   I would classify these under the same category as you would for other professional development that involves  improving your communication, such as:  public speaking; how to chair a meeting;,  and assertiveness training.

The key is to normalize offering and asking for support for pronunciation as much as possible.  As our workplaces become increasingly diverse,  it will be more challenging to make everyone feel included.  Being competent and feeling confident about your communication skills reduces micro inequities in the workplace and builds a greater sense of inclusion when handled in a supportive way.

“Accessibility” is not a dirty word


Author:  Evelina Silveira, President Diversity At Work

What’s the first image that comes to your mind when you here the word “accessibility”?  For many of us, it’s the international symbol of  the wheelchair, but sadly for others it means “more work” and  “more money”.  So why are businesses so behind in getting on the bandwagon?  It certainly isn’t for lack of trying  to get the message out.  Business associations and advocates for persons with disabilities have been out there, trying to educate businesses about their obligations.  Unfortunately, the attendance at these events has been abysmal.

I was surprised to learn that some businesses that do have accessible sites and accomodations do not want to post the accessibility sign on their marketing materials .  Do they not realize that utilizing this symbol brings in more business?  It speaks of a user friendly environment for people with disabilities.  I just don’t get it!

I completely understand  that for small businesses the extra work and the extra costs may seem daunting.  But, listen to this!  A study published by the RBC in 2000, estimated that the buying power of people with disabilities is around $25 billion.  This means that by making your services more accessible you will get more customers.

Sadly, whether we like it or not, if we live long enough we will be disabled in some way.  Creating accessbile businesses and workspaces makes good business sense.  We all end up benefitting.

P.S.  Public service businesses must be in compliance with the customer service standards by  January 1, 2012.

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